Content note:  This reflection briefly references childhood punishment and emotional experiences. It is shared in a professional and educational context.   On the "hot seat" as we call it - experimenting with Brain Switch 2.0 From moment to moment, we are all making meaning of our world. Our nervous system is constantly interpreting what is happening around us and within us asking quiet questions like: Am I safe? Do I belong? How do I protect myself? In response, we sometime

Understanding ACE, Attachment, and the Parts That Protect Us The child within us that yearns for love, and connection. Many of us quietly ask ourselves questions like: Why do relationships feel so hard for me? Why do I want closeness, then suddenly pull away? Why do breakups affect me so deeply, even years later? Why do my relationships not work out? These are some of the most common questions people search for when looking for therapy especially around relationships, attachm

Many people wonder why they are drawn to certain partners especially when, looking back, those relationships feel painful, confusing, or no longer aligned. A common belief is that we “chose wrong.” From a psychological perspective, that’s rarely the full story. Often, the people we are drawn to are not chosen at random. They feel familiar . They carry something of our earliest experience of safety. How our nervous system learns “safety” Long before we can think logically abou

A while ago, a friend asked me a simple but profound question:“Why do we end up marrying the people we do?” The question stayed with me, because the answer is rarely simple. Often, the people we marry are not chosen at random. They are familiar. They carry something of our earliest sense of safety. From a psychological and nervous system perspective, we are drawn to what once helped us survive. Long before we have language or logic, our bodies learn what safety feels like: w

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how healing really happens. Not just symptom relief or short-term coping—but actual shifts in how people relate to themselves. What I keep noticing in therapy and in conversations with people across cultures is this: whether we’re talking about reparenting, processing trauma, or practices like soul retrieval, we’re often doing something very similar. We’re helping parts of a person come home. In therapy, we might use chairwork or schema

Recently, I had a grounding conversation with a neighbour — a fellow business owner who works with a lavender farm and essential oils. As we exchanged reflections about purpose and work, something clicked for me. I realised I had been moving through parts of my professional life without fully embodying what I was meant to offer. Not because I didn’t care or wasn’t qualified.But because I had been presenting only part of the picture — the structured models, the recognised meth

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