Years ago, I worked with a woman who had been struggling with severe neck problems for almost two years. She had sought medical help, but the problem persisted. As she began telling me about what had been happening in her life during those same years, she spoke about a particularly difficult relationship. Somewhere in the middle of telling her story, she said: “He has been such a pain in the neck!” We both stopped. And looked at each other. There it was. Not a diagnosis. Not