Content note: This reflection briefly references childhood punishment and emotional experiences. It is shared in a professional and educational context. On the "hot seat" as we call it - experimenting with Brain Switch 2.0 From moment to moment, we are all making meaning of our world. Our nervous system is constantly interpreting what is happening around us and within us asking quiet questions like: Am I safe? Do I belong? How do I protect myself? In response, we sometimes form internal...

Understanding ACE, Attachment, and the Parts That Protect Us The child within us that yearns for love, and connection. Many of us quietly ask ourselves questions like: Why do relationships feel so hard for me? Why do I want closeness, then suddenly pull away? Why do breakups affect me so deeply, even years later? Why do my relationships not work out? These are some of the most common questions people search for when looking for therapy especially around relationships, attachment, and...

Many people wonder why they are drawn to certain partners especially when, looking back, those relationships feel painful, confusing, or no longer aligned. A common belief is that we “chose wrong.” From a psychological perspective, that’s rarely the full story. Often, the people we are drawn to are not chosen at random. They feel familiar . They carry something of our earliest experience of safety. How our nervous system learns “safety” Long before we can think logically about relationships,...